Save Yourself

Save yourself. No one is coming.

We may all fawn over the handsome hero who rushes in to save the day, but honestly, who wants to be an effing damsel in distress? Not me.

In those moments when the ship is sinking and we don’t want to get out of bed, we would all love nothing more than someone to show up and save the day. Save us from ourselves, from our pain and suffering. Show up brandishing a giant cheque with a hundred million dollars, the cure for what ails us or some other miraculous solution to whatever has gone wrong in our lives. Wouldn’t that be amazing?

Or would it?

If we could order solutions from the skip the dishes menu, would we actually be better off than if we learned to create our own?

If your biggest problem is finding a parking space at the mall, sure, a magic wand would be helpful, but when it comes to real life suffering, I don’t believe the easy button is the answer. This denies you the opportunity to grow and to become the stronger, more confident version of yourself and opens you up to keep learning the same lesson over and over. Hop back on the struggle bus for another ride. No one wants that. The driver is whack and keeps driving in circles in the worst neighbourhood, there’s vomit on the seat and it smells like despair. Get off.

Or rather Get UP! This is your trip around the sun and you alone are responsible for how you spend it. Stop waiting for the calvary to come. Be your own hero. Lean on the people who love you. They can shine a light and draw you a map but you are the one that has to make that journey.

And stop trying to rescue other people. That is not your job unless you are a legit first responder. Inspire, encourage, and support but allow your loved ones the opportunity to learn how to pick themselves up. Doing the work for them, only keeps them stuck and you will both get trapped in a codependent cycle that can only end badly.

The person you become on the other side is so worth the climb. So get off the struggle bus and pick up your own sword. Slay the demon and become the hero of your own story. You are a bad ass mother effing warrior.

Get out there and do epic sh*t.